It’s lonely and cold on the top…lonely and cold ~ Judy Garland
Are you sick of feeling utterly alone in your business?
You work so hard every day; hustling, learning, creating, promoting.
You fight the mental stuff, you overcome the challenges, and you’re doing it all by yourself.
It can be so discouraging when no-one seems to understand (or notice) all the hard work you’re putting in.
The whole process can get painfully lonely and sometimes you just wish you had more support from your friends and family.
Why the people in your life aren’t more supportive of your business.
Honestly? They just don’t get it yet.
It’s simple really.
They don’t understand what you’re trying to do and they don’t know how it all works.
And you can’t blame them for that.
If you cast your mind back to the time before you started figuring it all out; back to before you knew anything about online business, before you knew what e-commerce was and before you knew how to spell Entrepreneur, you probably wouldn’t understand what you were doing either.
Until the people around you spend the hours you have studying, learning and consuming anything and everything about starting a business – they won’t get it.
They won’t get it until they download all the free ebooks, checklists and podcasts you have or until they’ve read into the wee hours of the night about how to build a superstar brand and grow your email list to 1 million.
They won’t get it until they can they see the opportunity and vision you see.
And let’s be honest, that may never happen.
Don’t chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing and work hard. The right people – the ones who really belong in your life – will come to you. And stay. – Will Smith
Five Simple Steps to Creating An Amazing Support System
Whether you identify with the Entrepreneur title or not; starting, growing or even thinking about a business can get crazy-overwhelming.
Exciting and fun, yes. But also hard AF.
The last thing you want to have to deal with is your personal life going to crap or your confidence plummeting because you have zero support.
So on that note, here are five things you can do that will help you on your mission and give you the support you need.
1. Reach Out and Find Your Online Clique
I’m pretty sure it’s like an Entrepreneur’s right of passage that you have to go through the misery of realising not everyone is in your corner.
But on the bright side, you also get to go through the exhilaration and epic-ness of finding your genuine people.
You may have noticed that Facebook has gone crazy with its adoption of groups lately. No doubt you’re already a part of a few.
Some are good, some are bad, and some can be life-changing.
Here are five groups I’ve joined that help with the loneliness, isolation and general “I don’t know what I’m doing” vibes, which we deal with on the daily.
- Like Minded Bitches Drinking Wine
- Screw the Nine-To-Five Community
- Freedom Hackers Mastermind
- The Freelance Jungle
- Work in Progress (my group…wink wink)
As Humans, we thrive off the feeling of community and when that level of support isn’t there, it can be crippling to our confidence.
Make sure you find your tribe.
2. Seek out like-minded people and network like a boss
We live in an increasingly connected world, and social media has made it easy to create a relationship with almost anyone.
If you want to feel understood, find solidarity, and build out a network of like-minded individuals (who you can also call upon for help, support and guidance) then you need to take some initiative and seek them out.
Start building out your ‘friend list’ with people who want what you want.
Flood your feed with individuals who think like you do, who have the same worldview and who are willing to go the extra mile to make it happen.
Go through your favourite pages, groups and chat circles and add five new people to your friends’ list this week.
The first step is simple; make the connection.
3. Share with the people you love (even if you don’t think they want to hear about it).
I know this one is hard, but I can assure you that the people that love you want to know what you’re up to.
They will WANT to hear more about what you’re doing – just don’t expect them to understand everything about it.
When you talk to your friends and family, keep it simple.
Try not to discuss the problems you have (they won’t know how to help). Instead, think about the things that have gone well and let them know what you can celebrate today.
Tell them about your progress and why it’s so great, and they will love revelling in the goodness with you.
The people that want to be a part of your life, however small, will make an effort to understand your vision.
But you have to share it first.
4. Find a goal buddy, your #BusinessBestie.
Doing it all on your own sucks.
There’s no need to sugar coat it because we’ve all experienced the horrible isolation at some point in our business journey.
Finding a goal buddy can release so much of the frustration you have stored up inside you. It gives you have someone to talk about your challenges with; someone who is on your level, who is in the trenches with you.
Having that comrade in arms makes everything easier.
If you want to take your business to the next level, set a time every week to catch up with your buddy.
You can build in accountability, brainstorm ideas together, talk about problems, celebrate wins, and the best part is, they get it. They understand what you’re going through.
If you don’t know where to find your goal buddy then start in the groups I mentioned above.
Be brave and put a HELP WANTED ad out – I guarantee someone will answer.
5. Get a Mentor or Coach
I realise this isn’t feasible for everyone because resources can be tight (especially as a Solopreneur), but if you can invest in a mentor or coach, then it’s going to be one of the best decisions you make.
My business coach and mentor helps me slow down and stop thinking so much. He guides my actions so that I don’t skip steps and also provides some much needed ‘expert’ knowledge, experience and advice when times get tough, or I find myself stuck.
I have made significant progress in the last few months of having him on board, and it’s been amazing to build in that higher level of support.
If you can’t afford to invest in a coach or mentor, then you can find someone online who you look up to; your very own virtual mentor.
Business is exciting, super challenging and probably the riskiest thing you’ll ever do.
So in other words, it sounds crazy to almost everyone else around you.
You have chosen a remarkably courageous path, but at the end of the day, you’re only human and at a fundamental level, we need each other – to motivate, empathise, push, challenge and celebrate.
If you follow my five steps (and start creeping outside your comfort zone), then you’ll conquer the isolation and loneliness in no-time.
You’ll be able to build an amazing support system that gets you through the worst times and celebrates the best!
So go-on, get building that network!
Till next time.